- We are seeing more and more parents paying attention to their phones rather than their children when in restaurants.
- The use of mobile devices while in restaurants is showing to be a problem of response timing.
- The simple presence of a mobile device in sight is a cause of distraction.
Parents and Children are Giving More Attention to Their Mobile Devices Than to Each Other While Out to Eat
Walk into a family oriented restaurant come dinnertime and you will see an array of lights coming from the mobile devices of adults and children. Adults need to remain in touch with their work and email, while kids simply want to play games and watch videos. To stay up to date with these things the families are giving up their inter-personal communication interactions. Mobile devices are distracting our family time.
Dr. Jenny Radenksy, an expert in developmental behavior
pediatrics at the Boston Medical Center, performed a study to find out if
devices are indeed distracting from parent to child interaction. Radensky and
her teamed used nonparticipant methods to observe 55 parents with at least one
child in fast food restaurants. Of those 55, 40 were observed on their phones.
16 of the 40 adults were using their mobile devices throughout the entire meal,
showing little to no attention to their child. One of the parents did not even
look at their child for the entirety of the meal. Radensky also reported that
some parents would give their mobile devices to the children to keep them
entertained.
Children learn and develop skills through interpersonal
communication encounters with their parents. With the constant use of mobile
devices while eating out, which is typically considered a time to socialize
with those whom you are with, children are not getting the verbal communication
that they need.
Megan Fitzmaurice, a communications graduated student and teacher at the University of Maryland gave her expertise when asked how she felt the use of mobile devices by parents is taking away from the interpersonal communication opportunities that a restaurant offers parents and their children.
Mobile Device Use in Restaurants is Causing Delayed Responses in Conversations
We live in a society where gatherings,
meetings, dates, etc. happen at a restaurant dining table. We sit down, have a
conversation and enjoy our meal. However, since the mobile device has evolved
to give us social access at the press of a button our conversations at the
table have been delayed and bogged down by the thoughts of what is waiting for us on our phones. Fitzmaurice, was asked to give her input on how she feels
the increased use of mobile devices in restaurants is affecting inter-personal
communication in these settings. Fitzmaurice’s response is as follows…
Fitzmaurice brought up the fact of response timing being crucial to effective conversations. An individual whom uses their mobile device while in conversation with an another individual, or individuals, will not be much of a presence in that conversation because it is impossible to multitask. You can switch your focus, but while using your phone you will not be in a listening or speaking stance in that conversation. The inability of the human mind to multitask will lead to delayed response timing in these circumstances. Without proper timing it will be easy to become detached from the conversation and not properly engage with an answer. Thus, losing the interpersonal communication experience that is expected from the individual or individuals whom gathered with you at the restaurant.
Having a Mobile Device in Sight While Dining in a Restaurant will Distract from an Engaging Conversation
Next time you dine out look around upon your entrance or walk to your table, chances are you will see a mobile device sitting on a table within ones view. The sheerness of having a mobile device within sight, it doesn’t have to be in use or even at your table, is enough to distract. Studies have shown that “if a mobile is visible during a conversation it causes people to feel less positive towards the person with whom they are chatting”.
Andrew Przybylski, a Behavioral Scientist at the University of Oxford, worked with a team at Essex University to study if this is in fact true. Przybylski and his team conducted two studies. The first study took 37 pairs of strangers and had them talk for 10 minutes about an interesting event in their life. They sat the strangers in a booth; half of the paired strangers had a mobile device in plain sight on a desk nearby, the other half had a notebook placed on the desk instead of a mobile device. At the end of the 10-minute conversation each participant involved was asked to answer questions about the stranger they conversed with. The research found that the people whom chatted with the mobile device in sight were much less positive in answering there questions about the partner.
The second study took 34 different pairs of strangers and they repeated the process of sitting them in a booth, half the pairs were exposed to a mobile device on the desk and the other half were exposed to the notebook. However this time some were asked to speak about a rather boring topic while others were asked to speak about a meaningful event in the last year. The researchers found that the pairs that had a meaningful topic while exposed to the notebook on the nearby desk had “increased feelings of closeness and trust in their partner” however the meaningful conversations that took place with the presence of a mobile device did not produce the same findings.
The researches wrote that “These results demonstrate that the presence of mobile phones can interfere with human relationships, an effect that is most clear when individuals are discussing personally meaningful topics”